About

Hello, I’m Margery.

Thank you for being here.

I offer a supportive relationship where people feel seen and heard so that they can deepen their connection to themselves and their essence.

My former life on the outside

For a long time I went outside myself to find fulfilment. Getting drunk, taking drugs, falling in love, backpacking Europe, reading self-help books, winning awards, becoming a lawyer, finding a nice apartment, intensively dieting and exercising to ensure a ‘perfect’ body… I tried so many things on the menu but none of it was enough.

None of it filled the hole inside me; that dark, lonely, and confused place. I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted. I felt all the things: lost, stuck, empty, and unfulfilled.

Then it all changed. One afternoon in a therapy group, I was complaining about work, and someone asked me why I was staying in a job I didn’t like. I quickly answered, Oh, well, I couldn’t possibly quit, because my parents and my boss would hate me. The next question I got asked was: Is it true?

Then and there I woke up to my reality and the cause of my suffering: my mind.

My journey into the inner realms

I realised that what stood between me and peace, between me and freedom, were the stories of my mind. Stories about how worthy and lovable I am, how perfect and attractive I have to be, how smart and creative and successful I could ever hope to be. Stories that sprouted from childhood, especially one at the hands of hard-working migrant parents who gave up their lives for my future.

I got moving and began the journey within. With the help of Byron Katie’s Four Questions and my beautiful counsellor, Sabine Brosche, I began uncovering, understanding, and undoing the limiting, subconscious beliefs running my life. I brought aspects of my shadow to the light, healed many hurting parts of myself, and experienced openings I couldn’t before imagine—doing soul-fulfilling work, being in healthy relationships, letting myself off the hook from constantly needing to do and achieve, and ultimately: loving and accepting myself.

The journey of healing and evolving continues, as it always does, but I finally do feel at home in myself. Instead of relying on outside conditions, my happiness lives inside me. Self-inquiry brought me partway home. The rest of the way back was through meditation (in the Insight tradition) and Buddhist philosophy, from which I realised my true nature as peace, love, and open awareness.

My offering

Now I integrate these two approaches in my work, East and West, to offer a nourishing space for people to heal their wounded parts, recover their innate being, and realise their true potential.

I believe inner peace is available to everyone; it’s just covered by the stories of the mind. I am here to help liberate people from these mental limitations. It’s an honour to do this work and be in relationship with fellow travellers on the path.

Qualifications

(in progress) Master of Psychotherapy and Counselling, Western Sydney University

Graduate Certificate in Counselling (High Distinction), Western Sydney University

Bachelor of Arts (Sociology, Psychology) (High Distinction), University of Sydney

Bachelor of Law (Distinction), University of Sydney

200 Hour Yoga Teacher Training, All Yoga School, Bali

My Influences

  • Byron Katie, Gangaji, Paul Lowe, Sabine Brosche (being with what is)

  • Eckhart Tolle, Michael Singer (understanding the ego)

  • Gabor Maté, Bessel van der Kolk (understanding trauma)

  • Joseph Goldstein, Sam Harris, Kynan Tan (meditation and Eastern philosophy)

My Personal Practices

1. Feeling without fear

Instead of running away from uncomfortable feelings, which is the cultural (and understandable) norm, I practice opening to all of them. This takes a conscious, energetic shift where I sit down, get still, close my eyes, and sense the energy within me.

What this means for us—I can be with you, unafraid as you open to whatever you’re feeling. I’m used to being with discomfort and am prepared to meet you wherever you’re at, no matter how intense.

2. Undoing my conditioning

Each time I get triggered, I use the experience to look at an old wound. Whatever the situation, the root of my suffering seems to be the same: a deep-seated harmful belief about worthiness or love. I go to the source of the belief and settle in for a healing.

In the slow undoing of my conditioned reactions, what’s left is my core being: pure love, compassion, and understanding. I invite this energy to spill into all of my relationships, including ours.

3. Being present

I keep dedicated practices of yoga (in Ashtanga and Jivamukti traditions) and meditation (in the Insight and non-dual traditions).

This training in concentration and awareness, in returning to the present moment, makes me available to be with you as totally as I can—in spite of the inevitable background noise of my mind.

How I define peace: When what I want from life is whatever happens in life.